14 February, 2017

How To Handle Mistakes During Games



I made a mistake!!!!

I should of had that guy in front of the net. My coach will be screaming at me when
 I get back to the bench.


Well at least they didn't score but I will still get yelled at."

I was told this short little story from one of my younger athletes that I coach. Shame isn't it? But I believe him, I've seen it and heard it across from the rink.

Besides of all the wrongs that coach maybe doing with the shouting and yelling at the player for making a mistake - I'll get into that situation at another time - I thought I give you 3 easy things I tell my athletes to do if they are 'thinking' those thoughts while playing their game.

Here are a few things to think about and focus on to expand your capacity for mistakes in a positive way:


• Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff: As Richard Carlson taught us in his bestselling book of the late 1990s, Don’t Sweat the Small Stuff — And It’s All Small Stuff.  The vast majority of mistakes we make in life really aren’t all that big of a deal.  The bigger issue when it comes to mistakes is either our fear of making them or our reaction to them once they have been made (by us or other people).  As we lighten up and practice letting things go, we find that most things we stress or worry about are really small things.  Living life with this awareness allows us to have more peace and a lot less stress.


• Forgive: When a mistake is made, especially a big one, forgiveness is an essential aspect of moving through it.  Most of the time there is no malicious intent by the person who made the mistake (us or others).  Sadly, we tend to spend and waste a lot of time and energy either with blame or resentment, instead of focusing our attention in a more productive, positive, and healthy direction — forgiveness.  It is often most difficult, but most important, for us to forgive ourselves when we make a mistake.  However, if we can remember that most of the time we’re doing the best we can (as are others), we can hopefully get off our own backs and allow ourselves to be human (which means we aren’t perfect, nor is anyone else).


• Look For the Lesson: There are often tons of lessons for us to learn when a mistake is made.  While it’s not always the easiest or most enjoyable way to learn a lesson, it’s often quite effective, as it gets our attention.  I mention to the players that when they make a mistake, remember how it feels, recall how you actually feel, because you won't like that feeling, so so you won't want to do it again. Most of the time when we make a mistake, even a really big one, we gain a great deal of knowledge, experience, and insight that is invaluable, just remember it!

Until next time


Coach Nye


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